How Attraction Helps When it Comes to Finding a Mate

The post is developed in partnership with BetterHelp.

There are many things that you may look for when it comes to finding the right person for you, but one of the most important aspects is attraction. If you are not attracted to someone, you may not be able to make a relationship work. Here’s a look at what that means and how it can help you find prospective partners. 


When it comes to attraction, this occurs when you feel like you want to learn more about a person or be around them often. You may have experienced this yourself before. Perhaps you met a new friend and wanted to spend all your time with this person. This means you were attracted to them. There are multiple types of attraction, but when it comes to finding a mate, you may want to focus on physical, romantic, and sexual attraction. 

Physical attraction involves wanting to touch another person. Romantic attraction happens when you decide that you want to have a relationship with someone. Sexual attraction takes place once you decide that you are interested in becoming intimate with an individual. Together, these types of attraction should be present when you are attracted to someone that you think you might want to date. 

You can read about attraction here: There are details on how it works and signs to consider.

How Does it Work? 

Attraction can occur for a number of different reasons, and there may be distinctive circumstances for every person. For example, you might be physically attracted to someone because you are unconsciously smelling their pheromones, or because you find them attractive due to their appearance. However, there is much more to the process than that. 

It is also important to note that when you feel that someone is attractive, this doesn’t mean that you will be compatible with them. There are other aspects to think about as well. 

Research shows that when a person finds another individual to be attractive, they may think that other aspects of their personality are positive, but this isn’t always the case. For this reason, you might also want to learn more about any potential date or companion. 

Finding a Mate

When you are trying to find a mate, there are a few things that you should be aware of before you begin a relationship, even if you find that you are attracted to the other person. 

Your Expectations

One is your expectations. You should know ahead of time what you expect out of a relationship. Take all the time you need to determine what your expectations are. Then when you are ready to date, you will be able to tell your partner these expectations and they can tell you theirs. Doing this could lead to less strife, as long as you are able to uphold these boundaries. 

Being Open and Honest

You must also be open and honest with anyone you consider dating. If you start a relationship off with lies or behavior that is unlike your true personality, this may be awkward. Talk to your date about what you like and dislike. Knowing this information can help you understand if you have anything in common and gives you topics to discuss as well. 

Determining if You are Compatible

When you take the time to talk about expectations, likes, dislikes, and other topics, this can help you find out if you are compatible with each other. A healthy relationship will require more than simply being attracted to one another. Keep this in mind as you are learning more about other individuals. 


Attraction is something that should be present when you are thinking about getting into a relationship with another person. There is more that is necessary in a partnership, however. Of course, if you are attracted to each other, this is a great place to start. Once you are able to spend time together and learn further information about their personality and traits, you might notice that they are someone you would like to get to know.